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5.9.06

Re: Boot Camp

Question:
Has anyone sent their son or daughter to boot camp? If so, did it help? Are there any you can recommend?
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Response:
These type of programs are designed as a quick fix and may help a struggling teen with respect, obedience and appreciation. However, they are not a good long term option for teens that need help. Recidivism rates suggest that they are not a good solution for long term change.

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2.9.06

Re: Autism

Question:
Would anybody happen to have first hand experience in dealing with an autistic child? We have some concerns about our 'soon-to-be' 4-year-old?
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Response:

I don't have an autistic child, but I can tell you what I know about it:It's a brain disorder that interferes with a person's ability to communicate with and relate to others. It usually develops before a child is 3 years old, although the condition is sometimes not diagnosed until later. Typically, parents first become concerned when they notice that their toddler doesn't begin to talk or doesn't respond and interact like other children of the same age. Toddlers with autism don't usually develop speech normally and may seem to be deaf.Also, autism tends to run in families, suggesting a genetic link. Some experts also believe that environmental factors may play a part in causing autism. But in any case, a cause has not been identified yet.
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Response:
I don't have an autistic child, but I was one. I remember my parents telling me how when they put me to sleep in my cribe they’d give me old newspapers and sheets of scrap paper to tear up. I’d spread them around me, lie down and go to sleep.They did a great job of dealing with my autism creatively. My father, a lawyer, could afford to send me to a good school where I got help from empathic teachers, therapists and psychiatrists. My own efforts and persistence also helped.Today, I'm a landscaper ...I'm married and have one daughter. So don't let any one tell you that autism if a 'death-sentence' -- far from it.

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Be a good listener...

Have you ever talked on the telephone while watching TV, folding clothes, or surfing the Internet? Have you ever felt that the person you were talking to was nodding and saying "uh-huh" in appropriate places but not really listening to you? The message conveyed in these examples is that the listener has higher priorities than giving full attention to the speaker. That message can make the speaker feel unimportant, frustrated, and hurt.

Good listening is one of the most important skills we as parents can develop. We want to strengthen our relationships with our children, and one of the best ways to do this is through our active, caring listening. Our undivided attention to what our children are saying tells them that they are important to us. It shows that we value them as individuals; we care about them and every part of their lives. Also, we can teach them to be good listeners by modeling good listening skills.

Mark H.
MyOutOfControlTeen.com