What do you do when your son other parents are enabling your son to be defiant? Ex. I take away cell phone, the girlfriend’s mother goes and gets him one and pays for the service for the past 7 mos at $60/mo. Or the other parents smoke marijuana and say we are overly conservative parents. I take away vehicle, so he can ride the bus and the mother picks him up at the bus stop behind my back. She criticizes and rescues him. He will be 18 in June. I think I am too late. We are in counseling now. The mother also lets her daughter stay the night with my son at a friends house who is 25. The girlfriend is 16.