I have a son, nearly 18. Good student, heading off to university next year. Presents very few problems, but one is a doozy: Is of the impression that rules no longer apply, since he'll be 18 in just a few months. I cannot get him to understand that as long as he's a member of the household, he's subject to the rules of the household. But what consequences are there for an 18-year-old who is generally quite self-reliant and asks for very little from mom & dad?
I can take away car keys, and that's about it (a prospect itself makes me uneasy, since that forces him to seek transportation from friends if he wishes to socialize.) I can see this being a major, major issue when he graduates this spring, and then when he comes home on break. Certainly don't wish to give him the our-rules-or-find-another-house ultimatum.
Wish I'd learned of your publication(s) a few years back, but suspect they nevertheless contain useful nuggets for me even at this stage of the game, yes? Thanks for any guidance you can offer.