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26.12.07

My daughter is 16 and is very difficult...

My daughter is 16 and is very difficult. She was getting good grades in school, did not cut class and was even on the honor roll. These pass two years have been very stressful. She is disrespectful towards me and her grandmother. She talks back, stays out late without calling home. She tried to fight me on several occasions. Today is Christmas, she came in from spending the day with my brother and his family and is upset that her Myspace was taken off by me. She yelled and told me I had no right to take it down (it had to many negative things on there along with pictures). I tried to give her her Christmas present and she snatched it, I took it back and she was ready to fight. She cursed at me for the first time, I just lost it when she did that and blew up at me. This is my child, a part of me that disrespected me far too long. I wanted to put her head through a wall, but I know if I would have done that I would have been in jail. I am at my wits end and don't know where to turn. I need help, some type of resource before one of us ends up hurting the other.

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15.12.07

ODD Boyfriend

Hello,

I was just wondering if you could answer a few questions for me. My boyfriend is 19 years old and has oppositional defiant disorder and its driving me crazy. It seems like all we do is fight then he apologizes when he finally makes me cry. How can I make a simple convo not turn into an argument about nothing. For example I was waiting for him to finish getting dresses kinda watching him and he freaked out saying how he HATES when i watch him all the time it annoys him. What?! or another is we were talking about actors and I said that i didnt like a certain actor because he was too popular and he said that it wasnt a good enough reason and got really mad and the fight escalated to him calling me a bitch and me crying. I just cant help but "stick up for myself" but is this just fueling the fire? what are some techniques for dealing with this without feeling like im giving in or just agreeing with him all the time. I feel worthless and resentful alot but i also feel guilty for making him feel like he is a mean person all the time. He refuses to see anyone for help because he was pumped full of meds for adhd when he was just 5 and it really messed him up so is there anything i can do? please help. ive looked everywhere on the internet but i just cant find anything about dealing with a spouse or boyfriend with ODD. thank you for your time and i eagerly look forward to your relpy.
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