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14.7.08

15 years of confrontations, fights, broken house items, holes in my walls, dents in my car panels, phones broken off the wall...

It is hard to take 15 years of confrontations, fights, broken house items, holes in my walls, dents in my car panels, phones broken off the wall, thermostats, broken off the wall, slat type doors broken off the closet, computer monitor punched broken, computer cables bit apart with his teeth. etc to get a good evaluation of my under-indulgence, all because he would not do what he was asked to do and did not get what he wanted.

philadelphia school system wanted him out of their school system when he was in the 5th grade. first year Catholic school said he could not come back at all. because of his severe bad behavior. I had to fight to get him into a private school to get the services to get him some type of education. after one year at the private school for mentally challenged children, I had to get the state of PA. mental health dept to get involved to have the school keep him. they wanted him out as he was UNCONTROLLABLE, he spent an addition two years past 12th grade to get additional learning, to have a 9th grade level of education. no he was never diagnosed MR.

His behavior started to get better after I had a breakdown of being called at work to come and get him from school because of something he did. not the first time. I removed him from taking all of his meds cold turkey, at that time he was on thirteen pills a day, some in the am, noon and bed time. this showed some, behavior improvement. noticed even by his behavior specialist, his comment was what is different about Larry he is talking better and even telling jokes that he never had done before. that's when I told him what I did with the meds. he was SHOCKED that I did it, but was puzzled that he now was doing better. ?????????????????????

he is demanding and always wants his way, I think this is because he was restricted in what he could have, because he would NEVER make the effort to do what he was asked to do. I believe this is part of his disorders of a fear of failure or a fear of not knowing what the out come may be. for him it is easier to not make the attempt than to try and have something be successful just to get it done.

any other way with him is just not acceptable, because it's not what he wants. he is always right, even if you can prove to him that what information he has is wrong, he says they don't have it right they are wrong.

when caught in lies, he says he's being used as the scape goat for everyone else's problems, where he got this from I don't know.

It is hard to give you 15 years of confrontations, fights, broken house items, holes in my walls, dents in my car panels, phones broken off the wall, thermostats, broken off the wall, slat type doors broken off the closet, computer monitor punched broken, computer cables bit apart with his teeth. etc to get a good evaluation of my under-indulgence, all because he would not do what he was asked to do and did not get what he wanted.

philadelphia school system wanted him out of their school system when he was in the 5th grade. first year Catholic school said he could not come back at all. because of his severe bad behavior. I had to fight to get him into a private school to get the services to get him some type of education. after one year at the private school for mentally challenged children, I had to get the state of PA. mental health dept to get involved to have the school keep him. they wanted him out as he was UNCONTROLLABLE, he spent an addition two years past 12th grade to get additional learning, to have a 9th grade level of education. no he was never diagnosed MR.
His behavior started to get better after I had a breakdown of being called at work to come and get him from school because of something he did. not the first time. I removed him from taking all of his meds cold turkey, at that time he was on thirteen pills a day, some in the am, noon and bed time. this showed some, behavior improvement. noticed even by his behavior specialist, his comment was what is different about Larry he is talking better and even telling jokes that he never had done before. that's when I told him what I did with the meds. he was SHOCKED that I did it, but was puzzled that he now was doing better. ?????????????????????

he is demanding and always wants his way, I think this is because he was restricted in what he could have, because he would NEVER make the effort to do what he was asked to do. I believe this is part of his disorders of a fear of failure or a fear of not knowing what the out come may be. for him it is easier to not make the attempt than to try and have something be successful just to get it done.

any other way with him is just not acceptable, because it's not what he wants. he is always right, even if you can prove to him that what information he has is wrong, he says they don't have it right they are wrong.

when caught in lies, he says he's being used as the scape goat for everyone else's problems, where he got this from I don't know.

What should I look for in a GOOD psychiatrist.

most of whom we have had before basically have given us lip service. " I'm sorry that our session time is up would next week at the same time be OK".

as for still being at home at 20 years old where do expect a child with this type of education working part time 8 hrs a week with no skills to go and live. residential placement is our only resource thru a hospital stay evaluation.

I feel Larry has potential but just doesn't know, neither does any one else, so far, how to get his brain to function the right way, to get that potential out for the betterment of everyone.

most of whom we have had before basically have given us lip service. " I'm sorry that our session time is up would next week at the same time be OK".

as for still being at home at 20 years old where do expect a child with this type of education working part time 8 hrs a week with no skills to go and live. residential placement is our only resource thru a hospital stay evaluation.

I feel Larry has potential but just doesn't know, neither does any one else, so far, how to get his brain to function the right way, to get that potential out for the betterment of everyone.

My Out-of-Control Teen

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