Since I’ve regained custody (12/07), his grades improved from mostly Fs to mostly Bs and he did get a job. He was paying ½ of his phone that he just got in May ‘08 (but recently lost his job last week because the business shut down.) He has a learners permit – but doesn’t drive. So my scenario is I have a kids that’s “doing better” than he was – but still not good. As he explains it, he’s “a lot” better, and he also explains, “I got in Honors classes and have done some of my summer reading - even w/a 2.3 GPA.” - BUT, he’s not ready to fix all of his vices. Technically, I haven’t “caught” him – so I don’t even know when to “punish” him – and he, like in the video, thinks he deserves credit for his honesty.
He sees himself as a giver and I’m just driving him nuts w/my rules (like I said – I’m relatively passive – so the rules are the basics.) He had a friend stay over last night, and I “think” they were up to no good. I was in the yard this morning and he came walking around the side of the house with a gym bag and backpack and he told me he wanted to see how the grass was growing back there. – Weird and not likely.