I have a 16 year old step son, who has been back & forth between his natural parents several times. He’s defiant, tries to tell his parents what he’s going to do, is not responsible for anything that makes him behave badly. He’s not a bad kid, my husband keeps him on a fairly short leash as he was experimenting with drugs and alcohol at his mother’s home. He is not in trouble with the law, but is disrespectful to all of his parenting figures, and female teachers. He’s good as gold at other people’s homes. My husband is at the end of his rope. We’re having the child evaluated for a learning disability or ADHD right now.