He fits your profile of a dependent person to a tee.
Last evening he flew off the handle because he was unhappy with his dinner choices. He worked himself into a rage and became quite verbally abusive. I told him if he insulted me again, he'd choose the consequence of losing his phone, and as predicted, he insulted me. He wouldn't hand over the phone, refused punishment, and ultimately broke the casing and molding on my door which was locked to keep him out. To make a long story short, he is now on 3 days of no TV, phone, Computer, and has been told the clock starts when he calms down and stops the abusive behavior. This happened last evening, and as of this morning, the abusive behavior has continued. He refused to go to school, and only went because he was told he'd miss his end of year hockey dinner tonight if he didn't go. After tonight, there is nothing left really to take away.
He will likely continue his abusive behavior tonight, and throughout the punishment. The punishment will be prolonged, because he will be resetting the clock, and the abusive behavior will likely escalate.
He has never been in trouble with the law or in school. The behavioral issues seem limited to the household.
I know in your program you said if necessary, bring in the police. I'm getting near that point but am reluctant to give him a criminal record because of the implications on his future. It is our plan for him to attend college.
Not sure where to go from here and how to get through the next few nights of abuse.
My Out-of-Control Teen