My 16 year old has been expelled from school for doing absolutely nothing the teachers wanted him to do.
We have had him home for 3 months now, and he refuses to put any effort into getting a job, despite our consistent badgering for him to do so. He refuses to get out of bed at a reasonable hour, go to bed at a reasonable hour and is totally unmotivated to do anything. I have not given him any money for anything (including haircuts and clothes), hoping that he will realize he has to go and earn it himself. After a huge blowup last week, my son walked out and has not contacted us since.
I am unsure of what to do if my 16 year old decides to contact us or want to come home again. (It is school holidays here, so I assume he is partying with his friends until they all go back to school).
I want him home, but he causes so much tension in the house and refuses to look for work.
I can not say “ok love, as long as you are here with us, you can do exactly as you like”. But I also can not see myself kicking him out (even though I would love to at times) when he doesn’t follow our rules. What do I do to stop everything going back to how it was?
My Out-of-Control Teen